Although Zhinu and Niulang might still espouse old-fashioned sensibilities, Zhao said she thinks the couple would be pleased by some of 2Red Beans' recent findings."I think they would be happy that people are getting out more, to date more people," she said.So, take your time to learn and absorb as much as you can about, amongst other things, your new Chinese girlfriend’s family background and structure, upbringing, beliefs, culture, language, morals, likes and dislikes, “yes-yes’s” and “no-no’s” and so on…
"The traditional Chinese dating culture is as soon as someone asks you out for a cup of coffee, you're exclusive, that you should just date this one person," she said.Related: Chinese Americans Find Love on Specialty Dating Site While that mindset might be changing, Chinese living in Canada still tend to be more conservative than their counterparts elsewhere, according to the survey.More than 40 percent of overseas Chinese now say it's okay to date two or more people at the same time before establishing a relationship - clashing with traditional Chinese norms.But if you're a man, be prepared - you'll still likely be footing the bill on all first dates.It’s a time to be permanently on your best behaviour and you certainly don’t want any of that cross-cultural chaos which sometimes strikes at new “datees”.
It’s a time to try and impress her; time to listen and share things that you have in common with your new love.
This, too, represents a departure from norms in Chinese culture, Zhao said, in which men are often older than their significant other.
The survey also found that overseas Chinese tend to partake in different dating customs depending on the western country where they live.
Roughly 58 percent of those surveyed were women and 42 percent men.
The findings, Zhao said, suggest a shift away from conventional attitudes typically embraced by Chinese.
The process of courtship in China seems to be much more important than the process of courtship in the United States.