Rosie Einhorn (a psychotherapist) and Sherry Zimmerman (a psychotherapist and former family lawyer) are the authors of the newly-released book, Dating Smart – Navigating the Path to Marriage, published by Menucha Publishers.They are the founders of Sasson V'Simcha ( a non- profit organization that provides programs and services in North America, Israel, and Europe to help Jewish singles and the people who care about them.Questions for Rosie & Sherry can be sent to [email protected]
It also negatively affects our attention spans, which means those trying to develop a connection may have a hard time sustaining meaningful conversation.
They're accustomed to communicating in short spurts, rather than taking the time to explore a subject in-depth, understand and convey emotions, and engage in a prolonged exchange of thoughts and ideas.
Technology has fundamentally altered the way we communicate.
We can send messages, update our social network, and share in a world-full of information with one click of a mouse. Because we're accustomed to communicating in 140 characters or less, we expect that an "instant" connection will lead to an instant relationship.
This is a false sense of intimacy, because the texts and tweets don't convey the sender's tone or mood.
We can't really get to know someone without spending time together – sharing experiences, observing body language, facial expressions, and engaging in a face-to-face exchange of ideas and feelings.
These are essential, intangible elements of social interaction.
We don't know if the personal chemistry is in sync, or if we are capable of having a real-time conversation.
But a two-dimensional photo doesn't capture what a person really looks like, and reading a profile doesn't give enough information about what they’re really like.
Find out information about a potential date the old fashioned way – by talking to people who know them.
Skype and video chat are good alternatives when geographic distance precludes seeing each other often, but they cannot replace face-to-face dating.