if there’s any genuine connection between two people, it’ll survive whatever differences may arise in the early stages of dating, and if those differences seem too overwhelming and/or the relationship doesn’t survive for other reasons, trying to make too many adaptations in the early stages is NOT going to help!
The most that any such “advice” can normally do is perhaps to spare an occasional bruised feeling that might result from a minor misunderstanding.
For a girl used to American macho, this was about as expected like John Wayne asking for second coat of nail polish.
When I first came to Denmark, people kept asking me what I thought about Danish men. Why didn’t they ask what I thought about Danish weather (bad) or Danish food (bad), or, for that matter, Danish women and children? I soon learned their interest in Danish men was a variation on the famous German saying: Man spricht uber das, was man nicht hat.(You talk about what you don’t have.) There are NOT a lot of men in Denmark, although there is quite a bounty of tall, timid boys.The Shallow Man was in Paris recently, and while sat outside one of my favorite cafes, was sat next to a table of American girls, one of whom spent most of the time discussing very loudly about whether or not some guy she’d been out with a couple of times was interested in her or not.Now if that had been a Dutch girl, she’d have jumped that poor mans bones or got rid of him in no time at all, which brings me to the subject of today’s post, 5 differences between Dutch and American girls.Don’t return a Dane’s phone call (singular) and he will forget the whole thing.
Either that, or worse, he will sit home and sulk about it.Last year, I briefly dated a good-looking triathlete, a guy with a hot job and a fancy car, the kind of guy that in New York would have arrogance preceding him into the room like a bad after shave.Three days after a single unreturned phone call, I got a tremulous email from him.Providing presents is usually optional but not expected.American girls tend to view marriage as: When an American girl is going to marry, she’ll invite five hundred close friends and will spend weeks deciding who should sit where and next to whom.For the purposes of this post I will of course generalise (somewhat) and I’ll focus on the middle classes ladies of both countries of whom I know well.