So just so we’re clear, a black person is three fifths of a white person and a woman is three fifths of a man.So let’s combine these three societal conditions to come to a conclusion.When the patriarchy and hegemonic masculinity combine we get emasculated black men.
The second important reason is gender conditioning, specifically hegemonic masculinity, more or less meaning dominance over women. They are supposed to be tough, not back down from challenges, not sissies, and a whole host of other things, but here’s the kicker: hegemonic masculinity was never meant for black men.
If you are not a young, wealthy, white man, then hegemonic masculinity is not for you, in theory or practice. So they are being actively taught and subscribing to hegemonic masculinity when hegemonic masculinity was never meant for them.
And they weren’t necessarily taught how to be that person either.
This version of gender roles particularly appeals to the emasculated black man who subscribes to hegemonic masculinity; because, if in society you can’t be a man, but you have the status to choose to be the man at home, and you’ve been taught to seek a very particular kind of woman, who are you going to choose?
I hated Walter because of his erratic behavior—particularly the way he talks to his mother—but Lorraine Hansberry had to craft him that way to show how desperate he was and how stifled he felt by society.
Walter was being eaten alive inside because he felt like he could be doing so much more for himself and his family, if only he were granted an opportunity.What this creates is a race of men who feel constantly emasculated.James Baldwin gets at this in his piece, “Notes of a Native Son,” paying homage to “Native Son” by Richard Wright; however, a really good and more widespread character that illustrates this is Walter Younger in A Raisin in the Sun by Lorraine Hansberry.So a while back, I read an article called “Are Rich Black Men turning their backs on White Women? It was intriguing in its perspective, but very opinion based, so of course some people took issue with some of what was said, as did I.However, I also thought there was quite a bit of merit to the article.I have wanted to release something on the topic in response to the article or at least on the subject for quite some time now, because I have been pondering this issue for years as a young black woman, and I think I have figured out exactly why many successful black men tend to date white women.