while breastfeeding in the morning is ideal for me."Adult nursing relationships are often seen as taboo, as evidenced by sensational reporting, like when the New York Post accompanied a story about a couple in an ANR with the tag "WTF." People who engage in ANR are often portrayed in the media as "freaks," with commenters quick to point out how "gross" the act is.
The comments following an ANR story on the website Scary Mommy reveals an array of people offering judgment on the couple in question, with some wondering why they feel the need to share their story publicly, and one commenter going as far as to speculate as to whether the ANR participants are "attention seeking egomaniacs." Even in the world of kink and fetishes, ANR participants are outliers.
The person suckling the milk from the breast does not pretend to be an infant or child, and the person providing the milk does not baby their partner.
The 22-year-old American woman shared a touching photo on Instagram, breastfeeding her son on one of the biggest days of her life, wedding gown and all.
In the post, she also explains she had chosen the dress especially with the task in mind.
Editor's Note: Some names in this story have been changed at the request of the interview subjects to protect their anonymity.
Ellie* and Garett* have been together for six years.
"I enjoy nursing my son and I made sure when I chose my wedding dress I would be able to nurse throughout my entire night. Sharing the photo, she hit out at the idea women should feel ashamed for breastfeeding in public.
"I would like to share my photo on your page of me breastfeeding my son on my wedding day.Others do it within the context of a monogamous relationship.One woman on Fet Life wrote that she induced lactation to nurse her husband but, as he travels a lot, she shares her milk with other men when he is out of town to keep up her milk supply."Even within the alternative communities, a lot of people don't understand it," Ellie explains. "It all comes down to one basic premise: your kink is not my kink and that's OK."Part of ANR's taboo stems from some fundamental misunderstandings about who participates in it – and what it means.Where the "ick" factor comes in for many people – and where the triggering nature of the act lies for some survivors of childhood sexual abuse – is that it's perceived to be sexualizing an act that's associated with babies or child rearing.The most frequent explanation is that it gives the partners a sense of intimacy they wouldn't otherwise be able to achieve – a feeling facilitated by hormones that are secreted in order to produce a bond between mother and child, particularly oxytocin.