well its eating me up inside seeing them together, how do I get over it. This WILL cause problems and may drive your brother & ex closer but you will be making a clear stance on the situation.
Your five-year-old daughter needs your undivided attention.
Your husband needs you and trust me, this issue will sooner or later start affecting your otherwise happy marriage. You say that you have a very happy family, meaning your husband left his ex-girlfriend and chose you because you were the best partner for him.
If he was a friend then the rules would be more like Tara feels, however he isn't a friend he is your brother so different rules apply.
Personally my brother and myself would take payment in flesh for an act such as this.
well its eating me up inside seeing them together, how do I get over it. And then maybe leave him alone for a while so that you can deal with this and heal.
and I've talk to them about it and they don't seem to care how I feel. Hi, my name is Brian and I stumbled upon this forum through Google and I'm new to this so please be patient with me, here's my situation.Dealing with it and knowing that it's something you have to deal with is one thing. It's still ****ty on their part and I don't buy for a second that 'love just happened.' I think it's more than reasonable that he cut both of them out of his life, if it's what he feels he needs to do. They both have absolutely every right to date each other..he has every right to do what he needs to do to move on (since he hasn't) and part of that is NC and since his brother is the new boyfriend..get's lumped in with it. If people want to be together, then sometimes, personal feelings over-ride the feelings of others. Awkward as it may be, insensitive, tactless..it what you want. Why should THEY give up on something they feel deeply, simply because of certain relations? If you think that people's feelings for each other override everything, then what about dating a minor (statutory rape), or what about dating a pedophile, or what about dating your mother and father? If you find yourself with a crush on your brothers wife/ex wife, the right thing to do is distance yourself 100% from that person and stay loyal to your family. Nothing STARTS as love, there is no defending this jerk-off of a brother. Hi, my name is Brian and I stumbled upon this forum through Google and I'm new to this so please be patient with me, here's my situation.If his brother cries foul, then he should calmly explain the above, wish them both well, and then go about there separate ways up and until a) He gets over her or b) the relationship ends. Nobody can live their lives in deference to someone else. It is no more unreasonable for them to tell him to suck it up, as it is for him to tell them it's insensitive. My brother has been going out with my ex wife for awhile. I think you need to have a heart to heart with your brother and lay out how you feel to him.Finally, thank God for giving you a good husband who makes you happy. Or are you scared that the proximity of the ex might awaken “memories” in your husband? This is because, once you reconcile, you’ll be free from them. If he’s married to your husband’s ex and they are happy, let them be as long as they do not interfere with you. In this world, every individual is free to live his/her life.Many women your age cry every day because they are unhappy in their marriages and have never been happy for even a day. And just as you are free to live with your husband, so is your brother-in-law free to live with his wife.Your husband was against the marriage, but when he realised that there was nothing he could do, he decided to move on. Your brother-in-law also saw the best partner for himself and decided to marry her.