Regression Phase This is the phase where both parties drift back towards their initial or default state. It's understandable why screenwriters, who perhaps have an hour or two to develop the characters in a story, don't have the time or an attentive enough audience to portray a supporting character playing the "bad guy" as anything more sophisticated than just that... But in spite of their diversity they do have some things in common: Rule #1 Abusers are regular people. A person who mistreats you may mistreat only you and may be a model citizen to everybody else. Real abuse is sporadic, intermittent, occasional, temporary and sustained only for short bursts.They become less analytical about the relationship and turn their energy to more mundane matters such as work, family, paying bills and taking care of everyday responsibilities. It doesn't take much mistreatment to terrorize or demoralize a person for a very long time.In the case of unchosen relationships, romantic relationships, partnerships or marriages the Non-PD is involved in may be sabotaged.
Social relationships outside of the home may be frowned upon by an individual who suffers from a personality disorder.They may try to break the relationship by making up shocking or accusing stories about either the non-personality-disordered (Non-PD) individual - or about the person the Non-PD is trying to befriend.The victim is at maximum power in this phase and the perpetrator at minimum power.It is common for the victim to take advantage of the moment by rolling out a "Declaration of Independence" - a list of demands and conditions which must be met by the perpetrator in order to be forgiven and allowed back in from the cold.Morale begins to lift as a sense of normalcy slowly returns. In contrast to the way abusive relationships are portrayed in many popular books, movies and on TV, most real life abusive situations are not so "clear cut". The victim will often play along, grateful for a period of calm, happy to "let sleeping dogs lie" and not wanting to provoke any further outbursts. This may seem ridiculously obvious but is often one of the most overlooked characteristics of abuse. Therefore, effectively putting a stop to abuse has a lot more to do with taking action to protect yourself than it has to do with changing the personality of an abusive person.
Related Personality Disorders The Abusive Cycle is a common occurrence in relationships involving people who suffer from Antisocial Personality Disorder, Avoidant Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Dependent Personality Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder, Paranoid Personality Disorder, Schizoid Personality Disorder, Schizotypal Personality Disorder.
Please note that these descriptions are not intended for diagnosis.
No one person exhibits all of the traits and the presence of one or more traits is not evidence of a personality disorder. These descriptions are offered in the hope that non-personality-disordered family members, caregivers & loved-ones might recognize some similarities to their own situation and discover that they are not alone. As the name suggests, the Abuse Cycle is a repeating pattern where both the perpetrator and the victim of abuse contribute to the conditions which perpetuate the cycle.
The emotional energy level in the relationship shoots upward as adrenaline kicks in and both parties adopt the classic "fight or flight" responses.
Retribution Phase This is the phase immediately following the flashpoint, where the perpetrator stops the offensive behavior and begins to fear the consequences of their actions.
Top 100 Traits of Personality-Disordered Individuals Introduction Every relationship between a Personality-Disordered Individual and a Non Personality-Disordered Individual is as unique as the DNA of the people involved.