“I was the rat waiting for the pellet.” The search itself was an important aspect of Carly’s story as well.“The interaction prior to meeting someone is definitely part of the allure," she says. You’re interacting with like five people at once and when you know you’ve found that one person who you kind of have hooked or they’ve hooked you, the connection is made.
I was a sexual being capable of courting and receiving male attention. The Internet is a dangerous place for any sex addict, but for female sex addicts, there is the extra appeal of judgment-free access to an endless stream of sex partners willing to offer intimacy, flattery, money and whatever else it takes to get our attention.
While straight men may attempt to use the Internet this way, they're bound to meet with more resistance, based on the rules of sexual supply and demand.
Whether it’s an hour or a couple days, it’s as much of what I’m looking for as the sex.” Craigslist doesn’t cause sex addiction.
Nor is there anything inherently wrong with using the Internet to find casual sex in a non-addictive way.
Among the female sex addicts I interviewed, some used the Internet in pursuit of their addiction and some didn’t.
But among those who did, the Internet was a combustion engine that allowed us to fall deeper and faster into our addictions.For me, the feelings of power, desirability and importance afforded by such an experience were more than a passing indulgence.They quickly became my whole world—even back then, I was getting in trouble for racking up huge Internet and long-distance phone bills while having phone and cyber sex with older men I thought were impressed by my maturity.Sarah met partners in Craigslist’s dating section while simultaneously selling sex through the site's Erotic Services. The Internet just made it easier and I could do it more.It’s like the difference between an open bar and having to buy.If you’re an alcoholic, you’ll get drunk either way, but you can get drunk a lot faster on the internet.” For many heterosexual women, Craigslist and other hookup sites make finding your preferred partner and scenario as easy as ordering a pizza.