Take threesomes, for example: fun in theory, but not so much when the wrong group makes things a ménage à disaster.
The last I heard, my older ex was in a tumultuous relationship with another 20-something, this time a singer reminiscent of Björk.
I've been a lurker here for some time, and I've seen some great advice given out. I found out that my 17 (18 in 6 months) year old daughter is dating a 25 year old guy that she had previously only been friends with, and Im not sure how to handle this.
Well, first I would say that when you talk to her, try to make sure you express yourself in a way that is about how you feel - rather than what she should do.
YMMV, it doesn't sound like your daughter is heavy into rebellion, but you don't want to get into the whole forbidding/I can do whatever I want! That usually creates a motivation for the child to act just to make a point to the parents.
What began as a romantic adventure into unconventional love turned into a disaster I should have seen coming from waaaay over the hill. How old you actually are doesn't necessarily have a lot to do with your lifestyle.
Even though this guy and I were 25 years apart, we had a lot in common. I didn't know then that our age gap would define the relationship. This guy was confident, successful, and comfortable with himself: a significant departure from the insecure, possessive 20-somethings I had dated.
I start to question her on the nature of their relationship. On that note, I feel she is comfortable talking and being open with me.
(Were going to talk more specifically later tonight) I know she lied about dating because we would not have approved, and that is true.
First off, my Daughter is a smart, funny, mature, independent girl with a lot of friends and who does very well in school, and is preparing for college next year. She broke up with her last boyfriend (who was her age) because he always had drama going on around him, and unlike a lot of teenagers I know, she hates drama. ) Daughter met him some months ago when her friend got her uncle (The Guy) to drive them to the mall.
Since then, he has driven their coed group of friends around town to movies and such on occasion for some months now.
We worked in the same profession, had similar interests, and shared common philosophical views. So what if he was wrinkly, in all the places you might expect? There was zero jealousy on both sides, and I never saw him check out another woman -- due to him being satisfied, of course, but also him being well-seasoned in how to respect the opposite sex. Instead of just getting a hit of Botox, he was set on partying to prove it to himself and everybody else.