By taking care of this conversation early in the relationship, you will both save yourselves a lot of potential heartache, and time. Expect to Be Involved with Her Children Wow, have you made it this far? Most single moms or single dads are hesitant to take this step until she is pretty sure you are both on the same path.
Here are some tips to help you get the most out of dating a single mom, or even to simply encourage you to give it a shot. You certainly can be a player if that is all you are looking for, but unless you know for sure that the single mom you are wooing wants the same thing, this could seriously backfire on you.
There are single moms out there actively seeking a ring on their finger, and if you play games with the wrong one, you will find yourself in a mess that you’d rather not be in. Don’t be fake Don’t pretend to like her or pretend you are interested, just so that you can have a fling.
There is nothing that makes a group of men, or any individual man, cringe faster than the notion of dating a single mom.
A consensus for today’s single man is that single mom = baggage, and most men will shy away from it.
Small attention to details will sweep her off her feet more than grandiose gestures will. Be Flexible Flexibility is key when dating a single mom because she is always juggling a lot at once and has noone to share her responsibilities with.
She may be sure one day that she can make plans with you, but have to cancel at the last minute if a doctor’s appointment comes up, visitation with dad changes at the last minute, or any number of factors that could cancel a date in a heartbeat.
On the other hand, for this reason, many men also view the single mom as a great opportunity for a fling. It is 2008 and the United States Census indicates that America is home to over 11 million single parents.
The chances that you as a single man will find yourself dating one then, are pretty good.
Who wants to waste time if the person you are with isn’t going in the same direction as you are?
It’s okay if you both want different things, and it’s okay if you both want something casual.
Be honored that she is including you in the most important part of her life.