Dating older men and their issues

"About three weeks later, I got a letter from the White House. ] No one ever heard back from The New Kids on the Block. Old men are polite and thoughtful and young guys are generally self-centered."Megan is so passionate about dating older that she made me a list (a good one) of the five reasons that dating men in their sixties is just preferable to dating men in their twenties and thirties and why we should all stop judging her for it.1. I like a strong man that was raised when it wasn't abnormal to open your door, pull out your chair, and carry a heavy bag. To treat a woman like a LADY is the norm with a man in his sixties.2. A man in his sixties is not going to wait five years or even two to commit.

It was a handwritten 'thank you' card from George Bush telling me I was a talented artist and a wonderful writer and to stick with it! You can call it being a gentleman but women are almost pleased or flattered when a man in his thirties does this. At this point in the game, they have their shit together and they know what they want.

These days the idea of young women dating older – often significantly older - men barely raises an eyebrow. A long stints in an asylum for the criminally insane? But just because she hasn’t shared a similar experience, don't feel that she wouldn't relate to your life or your issues; open up and you never know what wisdom she could offer.

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It's courteous for both sides to be aware of the reality of the situation, and remember there’s a difference between generosity and showing off.

Don’t let her take advantage of you …Unless you want her to - which is fine, but only if you have expectations of a very short relationship.

Dating men of any age presents its own unique set of challenges: In high school you get fumbling boys, confused about where to put their body parts in relation to yours, despite their over-eagerness for the proximity. If you manage to settle down with one in their thirties you'll still spend time tinkering with their training wheels, coaching them through their careers, mothering them, and turning them into the men they want to be.

In their twenties men want to have as much sex with as many different women as possible. Of course in their forties and fifties all of that hard work will be undone in a blazing crisis of self that returns them squarely to stage one, armed this time with enough Viagra to pre-empt their premature excitement.

And remember, it's kind of sexy when a man feels empowered enough to discuss his feelings.

There are enough hurdles to making a relationship work, however old you are, so why let age add more stress?

I'm 33, Megan is 37, and the majority of the guests who were not relatives of the bride or groom fell somewhere squarely in between. Uncle Jack was away somewhere in France, but the mother of the groom put the kibosh on the whole thing.

Recently recovering from a relationship with a 65-year-old celebrity plastic surgeon in Los Angeles, Megan arrived to the wedding weekend licking her wounds, only to immediately be courted by the 72-year old uncle of the groom."They can smell me a mile away," she told me after she chatted with him about restaurants, real estate, his children, and his grandchildren, while the rest of us kids enjoyed a game of floating beer pong in the pool. "I don't want you to get hurt, dear," she whispered with reserved aplomb.

"He is married, you know."Megan isn't a homewrecker and by the time we made it back to Los Angeles, with the help of Tinder we found her another suitable match, Gary, 68, an accomplished businessman who lives in San Francisco, vacations in Palm Springs, and loves golf.

Gary was smitten over message and they met up in between Los Angeles and Palm Springs a few days later. Throughout the weekend, as I explained Megan's preferences to my college girlfriends in their early thirties, they made a face like they had swallowed sour milk and erupted in a chorus of, "That's gross," "ewwwww," and my personal favorite, "he's like my grandpa." To be fair, Uncle Jack was actually someone's grandpa.

Megan dates older men because, as she says, they are men."It's not for everyone but I prefer to be with a man that has already conquered his world and wants to enjoy the rest of his life," she told me. Donnie seemed like a loose cannon, much too unpredictable.