Before you risk hurting your reputation at work, find out if this person is someone you'd want to spend weekends with. People either don't care, will think it's obnoxious or inappropriate, or will get jealous. Once you have a sense that this might have a future, talk to your partner and decide how and when you want to disclose your relationships to your colleagues.
If the rumor mill goes into high gear, that might be the right time.
If you're smart, you will deal with the real world and anticipate plenty of bloodshed before this tale concludes. You can rail against the unfairness of it all, but think of it this way: If life were fair, you wouldn't be in this dilemma, and the arrow would have pierced the heart of someone nice who works for the company across the street.We met following a weekend that Beth was away with a group of couples and had had enough with 'the single life' and decided she would go on a date with 'the next half decent guy' that sent her a message on RSVP. Suddenly, Cupid shoots his arrow, and it hits the person in the next office. If things do work out, one of you may have to go, because it's against company policy to date fellow employees. Let's say you become involved with someone in your department, and you receive a promotion. Better start popping extra vitamins and heighten your sense of discretion.Don't get caught up in long conversations, two-hour lunches, IMing, or emailing with your partner when you should be working on projects or preparing for meetings. Even if there are no explicit policies against it, find out how upper management feels about office romances. "Since the sensitivities of the workforce are varied and subjective, there's always a risk of offending someone.
If they're common and happen in your workplace all the time, great. One complaint to HR for PDA, showing preferential treatment, or using words of endearment in public will at the very least trigger an investigation." Go easy on flirtatious texts and emails.If your relationship ends badly, will your ex-love tell HR you were making unwanted advances?Think about how a harassment suit will impact your career. And while you're at it, join some professional associations.If you sit together in the company cafeteria, will people now feel they should give you privacy?Will they exclude you from certain conversations, because they don't know what you'll relay to your new love?"The bottom line is, you need to tread carefully," she adds.