“Linda” (beautiful), they will often blurt out, with infatuation and fervor.
In the US, dating is often a long, drawn-out process that can get pretty messy.
In Brazil, it's so much simpler: If two people like each other and are spending time together, they will normally start to “namorar” (date exclusively) shortly after.
He would rave about how beautiful he found me to be, send me romantic song lyrics and just weeks after we started dating, he told me he loved me.
From then on, he made sure to remind me of that constantly.
I admit that a fair share of Brazilian men have entranced me.
This is the powerful, irresistible lure of the “Brasileiro” (Brazilian man).
I find it interesting that in the US, we have a term for publicly showing affection (“PDA”).
There is no word for this in Portuguese because this type of behavior happens constantly; it’s expected.
Furthermore, being “carinhoso” (affectionate) is integral to Brazilian relationships and the lack of “carinho” (affection) in many American relationships is probably one reason why Brazilians have labeled Americans as “cold.”From the start, my Brazilian boyfriend was super “carinhoso” with me, regardless of whether we were alone or in front of his friends and family.
His actions made me feel loved and desired – at all times.
Irresistible lure aside, after spending nine months in Brazil, I came to really appreciate certain facets of romance and dating there that tend to be lackluster stateside.