" It was the most hurtful thing he'd ever said to me, but I realized he remembered me as a young girl, not me today. It's overwhelming to watch him struggle to come up with words and comprehend what he's watching on TV.
After love and support from strangers flooded my inbox, one email caught my eye. Koslowski from Brooks Rehabilitation in Jacksonville, had been following my husband's story online and wanted to visit to see if he could help. With his expert advice, I started to pinch Tony's right side incessantly until one day, he pushed my hand away in annoyance. I had to sit up and hold his hands tight, assuring him I was his wife and that he was safe.Another night, after he'd put his arm around me, he said, "Why is she so fat?To every medical professional telling me he'd never get better, I responded, "I'm taking him home, and if all he can do is crawl, I will crawl with him."Every day the nurses watched me in shock as I fought for my husband's life.I hung pictures and notes all over his hospital room to make sure he wasn't just a patient, but a person.Knowing I may never have seen him again if I said no, I accepted.
One month later I made my way to Rota, Spain, where we spent our first three years as a happily married couple.
There was nothing unusual about the day I received that phone call. Everyone sees this tall Filipino man and expects a petite wife latched to his arm. Although our appearance seems unique, our love story is what truly sets us apart.
It was October 9, 2010, and my daughter and I were chatting about meeting for lunch to catch up. It was summertime in the 70's in Lemoore, CA, and it was nearing an end.
He's NOT the man I married, and he doesn't love me like he used to because, well, he doesn't remember that he did love me once.
Most traumatic brain injuries result in damage to the brain because the brain ricochets inside the skull during the impact of an accident. Sometimes Pete could barely tolerate talking, and silence became a big part of our lives. It was a brutal experience for him, for me, for our family, one that shook us all to the core.
Now, almost five years after his brush with death, his mobility and mind are constantly improving.