The main cause of divorce is not what is happening during marriage but what happened before marriage.
How you live as a single person, will eventually show up in your marriage.
Let me say first of all: Dont get hung up on terms.
On the other hand, I try on one pair of shoes, it fits, and I take it home.I will wear those shoes out until my wife encourages me to get another pair.But someone who knows only one person, does not have anyone else to compare him with, and is more likely to be satisfied with their "one and only".And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.The world expects teenagers to date, so parents feel like they must go along with the world. They are seeing how close they can get to sex without actually doing it. The scriptures also says, "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute (fornicator) is one with her in body? It is meant by God to draw together two people who are in love and who have committed to spend the rest of their lives together. I know guys will say anything to get sex from their girlfriends. Is he ready to take responsibility for a child that they might conceive? How can we expect to exercise self-control if we constantly put ourselves in compromising situations? The only time we had to repent before God was when we placed ourselves in a position we should not have. Not one that has wheels constantly spinning around.
Listen, unless a person is ready for marriage, they should not be placed in a position to perform the duties of marriage. For it is said, "The two will become one flesh (1 Cor )." Fornication is similar to the act of marriage. They will even use the famous "I love you" line to get what they want. As I wrote earlier, my wife and I were virgins before we got married. You may want to go straight down the aisle, but if you are not real careful, your cart will veer off course into a can of tomatoes.We should expect purity before marriage, just as we would expect purity during marriage. And worse, I feel dating is so expected and sometimes, encouraged by the church, family and Christian friends, that we wonder why people fail sexually, and later, get disappointed when they fail in their marriage. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body" (1 Cor , ASV). Lets face it: dating as it is practiced today, does not agree with this scripture. Okay, so you feel something for this guy, but use your head, not your libido. Does love motivate the guy who sleeps with his girlfriend when it will scar her emotionally and damage her relationship with God? That was the only time we placed ourselves in that kind of position. The best safeguard is to teach and expect our members to practice courtship.I know Christian parents who allow their teenagers to date. When people date, they are not fleeing fornication; instead they are flirting with it. If a person really loves someone, then he will make sure not to do anything, which might hurt her. I know we usually do not associate love with intelligence. Does love motivate the girl who leads a guy along then breaks up with him when she finds someone better? After eating dinner, we headed back to Sonias house, only to make a detour into the woods. I can imagine couples constantly placing themselves in compromising situations. Im sure Sonia and I would have eventually succumbed to fornication if we had constantly placed ourselves in that kind of position. When you go to the grocery store, the most important thing to do is to get a good shopping cart.My definition of dating is that it is a modern game where intimacy is practiced before commitment. It doesnt sound good to tell someone you are mating with Mr. I looked up the word date in my encyclopedia and it said, "see Sex and Teenage." Even my encyclopedia agrees with my definition.It often involves romantic talk, holding hands, kissing, making out, and oftentimes sex. Courtship is the time-honored and successful practice of learning about someone enough to know whether or not the two is compatible for marriage.They say, "Better find out if you are compatible sexually before marriage than after marriage."You know this argument is so lame. Another argument of the proponents of sex before marriage is this: if you wait until marriage to have sex, then you will always desire more; better to get it out of your system before marriage than to do it after marriage. He decides to go to Wal-Mart and gets himself some overalls.