Gretchen, now 44, was involved with a man of 51 and he was simply too busy with work and personal commitments to be available when she really needed him.
It was Fred who visited her on a regular basis and saw to it that she had what she needed during her recuperation. But Marla's flaw seemed to be that she was only five years older—and for Fred, that still wasn't enough to produce the kind of emotional maturity and depth for which he searched. Maybe not all the time, but a lot more often than younger women.
I knew she was older than I, but I didn't realize the disparity in age until she told me (which didn't happen until a couple of dates into our relationship).
Pat offered me space, devotion and herself, which I couldn't find in anyone else. She is a best friend who reflects back to me what a good person I am, which builds my confidence and self-esteem.
They were able to see things in me that I could not see in myself.
Also, there were levels of honesty unlike anything I've experienced even with best friends." Fred gave us a wealth of information over several interviews.
She offered me the opportunity to see another perspective on a lot of different issues. She made me realize how important I could be in making someone else happy.
I mean, older women think differently on certain issues and they've got more experience. Not that I was doing it for her, but just being with her."—Art, 27 "Emotional stability. There have been nothing but positives in my relationships with two older women.Their sentiments represent a very large proportion of the opinions we heard expressed. When I saw her, I thought she was just the perfect woman for me and I was sure about that.I wasn't looking for an older woman and Karolina wasn't looking for a younger man, but it just happened.The ability to talk about anything with her was refreshing and engaging.In fact, when I first met her, I didn't know I was attracted to an 'older' woman.Neither of my relationships was about being mothered.