” than they are to say the same thing about a similarly aged woman who is divorced. You don’t waste time kidding yourself that this might work if you just give it one more shot. These are among the reasons divorced women tend to get married again quicker than a woman of the same age who has never been married.The never-been-married woman deliberates for freaking ever!You are shady with family and friends who suspect you are 'seeing someone" but have no idea who. Dumbstruck Daters: You haven't been on a date in decades.
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About the Author Patti Stanger is the author of Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate and the star and executive producer of her own television show, The Millionaire Matchmaker, on Bravo.
Your nerves get in the way of acting like your usual self.
You experience 'fumfering' and excessive worry about your looks and words, and as a result can't remember a darn thing HE said once you get home.
You know what it takes to make a relationship work, and what will make it crash and burn. Men are more likely to look at a never-been-married woman over thirty-five and ask, “What’s wrong with her? It sounds harsh to those of us who have never been married, but it’s true and the truth hurts me as much as anyone else, because, as you know, I’ve never been married. Divorced ladies, for all the trauma and heartbreak you’ve been through, consider the hard-fought advantages you’ve won: 1. You’ve been in the program before, you know all the signs, both good and bad, so you’re better able to assess if he’ll make a good husband. You can discern his interest level, and your own, much quicker. You also know that it’s better to be alone and happy than in a crappy relationship. And if your ex-husband was someone prominent in your community, your stock goes up even higher. They know that you’ve seen a man in gross old underwear before and accepted him, warts and all.
Some of you mistakenly feel that because your marriage(s) ended, you’re at a disadvantage. To be honest, and you know I’m never anything but, divorced girls have a huge advantage. You’re not some starry-eyed twenty-something who runs home crying to mommy the first time your husband criticizes you. You know that, yes, you can recover from a heartbreak, and, no, he’s not the last man on earth. Men register this in their minds, whether consciously or subconsciously. Men love this, because they don’t feel the pressure to be perfect.
You tolerate unsavory qualities like a twitch, if his salary is high enough.
You will cancel plans with your own mother to make a date on a moments notice.8.
Your cynical vibes smell defensive and stink up the room. You want this person to treat you as if they care about you, even though you don't really care about them. Sneaky Daters: You don't really want anyone to know who you are dating or where you are going.
You love the fact that you never expect a call, and call them when they least expect it. You go out of your way to find "out of the way" meeting locations and rely heavily on GPS.
Questions to ask yourself: Does he get extremely angry if you do not follow through? Do you really want to be controlled by another person? He tells you that he sees you looking at other men.