This morning I dropped her off for band camp and she accidentally left her phone in the car.When I discovered it, I texted her with it, saying I had her phone.* Then a few texts caught my eye, and I snooped.Your daughter should talk to the boys with whom she’s shared photos and explain the trouble the nude shots could cause for all of them.
The chat will resume Tuesday after Labor Day, Sept. Dear Prudence, I have a beautiful, awesome 17-year-old daughter.She does well in school and she doesn't get into trouble.I don't want her to feel the shame of knowing I know. You need to sit her down, tell her what you saw, and discuss what to do next.But even worse, I don't want her to feel the shame of the entire world knowing if one of these boys decides to be an ass. If she were in a serious relationship, I could understand her having sex, but it's the sending of pictures that really has me bothered. Read this sexting horror story and then show it to your daughter.The mother wrote back to explain that when she found her daughter's phone she answered a few incoming texts explaining her daughter was not in possession of the phone. Dear Prudence, My husband and I have known each other since high school and have been married almost 20 years. He became staunchly conservative, and it's been tough on the family ever since.
When we were younger, we were both liberal Democrats, like our friends and my family. He's smart, but now he needs to make sure everyone knows why they are wrong about their political beliefs.
But even if prosecutors never get a peek at your daughter’s pictures, she needs to know that sending nude photos of herself can be a life-changer.
For more advice, I turned to my , which is about all forms of bullying.
If they have been, it might be necessary to get the parents involved to make sure this contagion is contained. If your daughter doesn’t understand the gravity of having naked photographs of herself floating forever on the Internet, then she has a lot of growing up to do.
*Update: The sequence of events in the original letter was confusing, and my attempt to clarify didn't help.
Our teenage son tries to play peacemaker, which shouldn’t be his role. In it, Haidt, a professor at NYU who studies the origins of morality, explores why we are so viciously divided politically.