With standard dating precautions followed, NZDating members feel more at ease getting to know each other in this new social scene.
NZDating's been in the dating and romance business since 1998.
I stare at the blank form on the website — the one that invites me to open my heart and pursue my soul mate via a labyrinth stocked with eligible men. I was more than capable of getting into my own romantic scrapes and didn’t need a website to exacerbate my bad decision making.I breeze through the questionnaire: How “green” am I? But just recently, I heard of an entirely new niche in the online dating market, for “conscious singles.” In this case, being conscious means living life in a thoughtful way, following a spiritual path, valuing nonsuperficial things when seeking a life partner. Perhaps my age (middle) and shape (no longer thin) and strong personality (pitta, remember? One woman waited for her first date with a man she’d met online, sitting at an outdoor table at the appointed place and time. Readers of my early ’00s newspaper column emailed me with hundreds of horror stories, and sometimes their experiences would bring tears to my eyes.“There is less traffic, so fewer options.” Boy, no kidding.
Once I’ve completed my profile (you can complete as much or as little as you want), I go fishing in the enlightened singles pool, only to discover that there is no one within 20 miles of my coastal town.And worse: I am a spiritual novice compared to many of these people.One interesting fellow (40 miles away) is a devotee of Sathya Sai Baba who has been to India many times, another (50 miles away) is seeking a “Tantric partner,” still another (55 miles away) describes himself as “a 9 on the Enneagram.” My heart sinks.It's more fun Some dating sites claim to be the place to find someone to marry.At NZDating we say the best relationships come from having fun making lots of friends - meanwhile 'the one' often magically appears!I’m not sure what any of this means—or why any of them would be interested in a flawed, Type-AAA workaholic for whom cat rescue represents a path to the divine.