Most just can’t accept this and the ones who have this awareness typically hate themselves because they’re unable to stop their bullshit (as much as they’d like to).So whenever you feel the rage building up inside, realize that you would have most likely turned out the same way had you also been abused by your caretakers.
If she truly didn’t care about you, you wouldn’t be the recipient of all her bullshit so she definitely cares to some degree.Unfortunately, she equates romantic love with drama and pain and will do her best to create this for herself, with or without your help.You’ll need to stay sharp for the duration of the relationship. Sometimes you have to respond to their flirting and physical affection with some of your own, and other times you have to act unaffected and disinterested (there shouldn’t be a discernible pattern).Remember, that if you were with a normal girl, sometimes you’d be in the mood for her affection (and for sex) and sometimes you wouldn’t.Dating borderline women is like playing the game of thrones with one exception: winning isn’t an option. The good news: if you can maintain your frame, you’ll render the competition irrelevant and the girl will be absolutely addicted to you.
The bad news: she’ll still be in your life and you’ll have to deal with her craziness on a near-daily basis.Better to wait for her to be affectionate on her own time.Yes, I know they’ve been a little angel for the last six weeks but expect a crash to happen any day now.But whenever I voiced my concerns they would simply say, “Yeah, you’re probably right but I don’t care. ” I learned that when a man is dead-set on making his situation work, there’s almost nothing you can do to talk him out of it. Borderline girls typically end up with two types of men: needy tools (who they destroy) and guys with real Dark Triad traits who truly don’t give a shit.So this article is for the guys out there whose masochistic tendencies run deep and are ready for a world of pain. Avoiding deep emotional investment is the only way to stay in the game and not get crushed but it’s much easier said than done, especially if you’re not a sociopath.In other words, let the cat crawl into your lap before you start petting it.