Some people, in contrast, flout their parents’ wishes simply to rebel.
No child should feel pressured to go along with their parents’ racist beliefs.
In an ideal world, people wouldn’t enter romantic relationships for what they stand to gain from their partners.
The common interests and chemistry you have with a person should be the driving force for your decision to pursue a relationship. The person who becomes part of such pair because it’s hip or trendy won’t be prepared to deal with them.
Many parents tell children outright which racial groups they approve of them dating and which racial groups they forbid them to date. Now married to a Korean-American man, Farr had been told growing up that her boyfriends could only be German, Irish, French or Jewish."No blacks and no Puerto Ricans, though, or you are out of my house," Farr recalled her mother saying.
The idea of dating interracially to gain social status may seem peculiar.
After all, interracial couples face discrimination that may lead to distinct disadvantages.
That’s because deadbeats, cheaters and manipulators only come in one color, right? The reality is that you’ll have to do much more than land a love interest with a different skin tone from yours to end destructive dating patterns.
The answer to your romance problems isn’t crossing the color line but examining why you’re drawn to inappropriate partners.
At the same time, it’s irresponsible to seek out partners you know your parents would disapprove of just to rebel against them.
The mates you seek out certainly won’t appreciate being used as fodder in the war with your parents.
Attitudes toward interracial marriage are so progressive that some people prefer to exclusively date interracially. There are a number of reasons not to date interracially, including for social status, because it’s trendy or to remedy a rocky love life.
Dating interracially with misguided motives will inevitably lead to problems.
A person this insecure is unlikely to make a good partner.