I bet it’s difficult to filter the ones who are truly interested.“There are a lot of stereotypes and some girls use them for their own personal gain.There is a good chance that he will like you too, and just not have imagined that you could possibly be interested in him.
We only spoke in Japanese with each other for a short time before he started to learn English, so he could communicate with me better.
We eventually stopped speaking Japanese and now I’m actually unable to speak Japanese in front of him (shy, embarrassed … I actually forget that he’s Japanese and that he can speak Japanese.” After we got married we had some trouble with things like housework and money, but I’m not sure if that’s just him, a Japanese trait, or normal married life.
Even after we’d been broken up for a few months he’d still write to me and ask what I was doing and how I was …” When I started dating my husband, I didn’t really feel that we had any cultural barriers.
I guess because by then I’d been in Japan long enough that I knew my way around and I had lived with two Japanese host families, so I have a good sense of Japanese manners and customs.
It was an interesting journey and I want to thank all of the participants for taking the time to tell us about their own unique story.
“I moved to Japan when I was 18 and have been dating Asian guys ever since. I often hear girls who long for Asian boyfriends say that Western guys are dogs, and I can confidently say that Asian men are no different.
At first, we went through periods where we would only speak English (which I didn’t like) or when we would only speak Japanese (which he didn’t like). ” “I think in general, it’s important to be very open about what you are expecting from the relationship.
Obviously we change it according to the circumstances (we are not going to speak in English to each other when out with a lot of Japanese friends! If you need a lot of hugs and affection, make sure that he knows and don’t just get annoyed that he’s not automatically doing it.
” “If you can both speak the other person’s language, there are probably going to be disagreements about what language to speak.
My husband and I have a system where we swap languages every day – so today is an English day, and tomorrow is Japanese.
But there’s nothing we can really do other than keep studying and keep trying.