) that we were all not just okay with it, but that it was something we wanted.Truthfully, we don’t think of ourselves as polyamorous. I was a (divorced) single mother, and they were a happily married couple.Insecurities still arise from time to time, just as they do in any relationship, but it’s on a much different level now—just normal occasional stuff. To what if any degree do you guys feel compelled to hide your relationship from the rest of the world?
I personally feel very compelled to be in the closet, almost entirely because of our children and for the safety of our professional careers.There are eight kids in our house, and we live in an extremely conservative town in a very Republican part of the South.We learned that if I am deeply in love with him, it strengthens and supports my loving relationship with her (and her relationship with him, too), and so on.Normally, you think that if your significant other is in love with someone else, it weakens your relationship with them.In our case, since we are a three-person relationship, seeing my lovers relate happily together means that our three-person relationship is stable and supportive.
Their love strengthens my individual relationships with them both and our relationship all together as a three.Some people consider themselves polyamorous because they believe they need and/or want to be in multiple relationships at any given time. We all feel we could be satisfied with just one person.It’s just that we fell in love with two, pretty much all at the same time . and we discovered (through lots of open and honest communication!(A woman wrote to share with me that, in all ways but legally, she is equally married to both a man and a woman.I asked my new acquaintance if she would be willing to let me interview her about that.It was later that we discovered there was a term for what we were.