I’m not ashamed of my age and hiding it seems phony.
When I meet men in person in my daily life, I get a better response because they see the whole me, hear my voice, get a sense of what I’m like, all before they know how old I am, meaning I can be defined by other qualities.
They have told me of their frustration with lack of responses.
It’s the built-in folly of online sites: you are only defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.I am a youthful, fit and free-spirited woman and to be honest, I’m not ready for the retired 65-70 year old guys.And you may be trying your best, but you’re not truly maximizing your potential. Which is like saying you’re going on a diet by cutting out sugar, but continuing to eat large portions of fried foods.In all likelihood, despite your efforts, I’m betting your profile can be better, your photos can be better, your responses to men could be better, your initial emails to men could be better, and your choices in men could be better. My recommendation – if you haven’t done it already – is to go through every word in Finding the One Online. You don’t have to quit online dating to meet men in real life.I don’t mean those men any disrespect, I just want to date a guy closer to my age so that I have a longer future with him, and I don’t feel that I should have to apologize for that.
I have taken your and others’ advice about profile writing, and I have great photos, so I feel confident that the problem is not in how I present myself. It always comes out eventually and I’d hate to have to explain myself then.
Since Im in very good shape physically it doesn’t seem a problem when I disclose my real age when someone makes initial contact.
Match is a much more age criteria oriented site than say POF.
More unhappy couples are getting divorced when the kids leave the house. We also know that dating online does not mean that you’re not dating men you meet in real life. If you meet a guy through friends, at the market, at a concert, great.
Having a profile on isn’t going to keep you from doing that.
Worse, they’re hypocritical about it, because they don’t understand why the vast majority of younger women won’t go for them.