this is separate, but I want to address it for your sake in general).
People are so quick to snap up something half-hearted and then try to make that half-hearted relationship into something more.I’m not saying that never ever works out, but you are much more likely to succeed in your love life when you take the easy path which is: Say NO to what is what you don’t want and learn what makes what you want most likely to come to you.Again, I don’t think it makes you bad, but I have to look out for myself. So if you do want an exclusive relationship with me, let’s go all the way. And if you do want it, let’s clear the slate and commit to that.” Now…I’m not going to be in something where I have to worry or wonder that the person I’m exclusive with is as ‘into’ the relationship as I am. I’m really not one to spoonfeed words to anyone reading my articles. However, in this case, I feel that the conversation points I laid out above do more to instruct than even my explaining of my viewpoint would have…I would think things like, “Well, things seem good, but what if she’s doing something behind my back and playing me for a fool, etc.
etc.” This type of thing has a lot more to do with our own personal insecurities and not so much with what the other person is or isn’t doing.
So this may or may not be a situation you need to say NO to…
It is possible that when you talk to him, you’ll gain insight into his position.
if that’s not what you want with me or in general, 100% in your mind, heart, body and soul… I don’t think it makes you a bad person, I wouldn’t hate you, I wouldn’t be mad at you.
Life is complicated and the heart wants what the heart wants. “When I saw this, it just doesn’t line up with someone who wants to be 100% exclusive. “Life is to short to spend our time, energy and youth on something that isn’t spectacular. I’m fine with either and if you don’t want that, we can part ways as friends – sincerely, no hard feelings.
I can tell you from personal experience that this was a skill I needed to learn.