But then you meet this apparent sex maniac, and you start feeling broken.
Maybe it's a guy who complains, "My ex girlfriend would have sex with me five times a day!
" or the lady who refuses to believe that, yes, you are actually tired and not just trying to get out of getting off.
If she’s emotionally mature, she’ll take some time out from relationships to work on healing herself and preparing for her next relationship.
If she’s not, she’ll jump straight into a new relationship, carrying all her emotional baggage with her for the poor new sod to deal with.
How many smokers quit because people who love them ask them to put the cigarettes down?
How many workaholics halve their hours at the suggestion of a friend? Everybody I know [myself included several times over] gets into at least one toxic, co-dependent, unhealthy relationship with a total douche at least once in their lives. The relationship becomes like an addiction, and the more painful it gets, the harder we try to make it work, and the harder we try, the more we cling, the higher the stakes, the nastier the fights, the happier the makeups, and on and on and on until finally we’re so exhausted by it all that we say, ‘Okay, I’m done.’ At a certain point, your friend will realize that what’s going on cannot be fixed, and she’ll jump ship. And who knows: You might do the exact same thing with a total douche who seems like your soulmate for the first couple of weeks of your relationship before things go south, and all you’ve gotta do is figure out a way to get things back on track to that time when you can kinda remember being happy.
Life doesn’t work like that; we have to learn by making our own mistakes.
When was the last time you made a major life change because somebody told you to?
Be they male or female, these people are out there, and our dearest hope is to help you spot the warning signs before it's too late and a minor mishap turns into a major mistake. One night, he doesn't sleep over and seems a little too eager to cart his personal items home.
Stop, think, and ask yourself: Are you dating a jerk? You allow this person to sleep over every night, almost pretending to yourself you're already living together. Or maybe that wedding she excitedly invited you to as a date suddenly ceases to exist.
Dear Alisa, My best friend’s boyfriend is a total douchebag!
He treats her horribly and he is verbally and emotionally abusive to her, she totally knows this, but is so in love with him that she won’t leave him.
Anon asks: Isaac, my best friend and roommate is dating a controlling, manipulative, jealous, immature sociopath. I’ve often thought that life would be so much easier if everyone around us did exactly what we thought they should do whenever we thought they should do it, but sadly, it’s not the way. When we witness our friends participating in unhealthy behaviors, we can offer suggestions, but that’s as far as it goes.