Only narcissists who use their kids as a get out of jail free card for why others should put up with their lack of effort, and to promote their image of themselves as all-giving angels do that. Mothers NEED to be alert re: the man who may be a secret pedophile. My advice is that single moms should not date until their children are grown, but I realize not every feels they can do that.
So improve your chance of success by keeping an eye out for the following red flags as you sort through potential date’s profiles: Photos: Photos can tell you a lot about a potential date.
No photo, or a grainy, out-of-focus or outdated photo, are a sign that the person probably has something to hide, or else is not really serious about the dating process.
For one, my child has been in my life for, let’s say, two years.
During those two years I was a single mother, or even an estranged mother. See, there is always the possibility of you dropping me for some reason or another, but that child?
He may be legitimately finished with his marriage emotionally, but the paperwork isn't final. They may be on a trial separation, seeking variety, or way too fresh from a bad relationship to date seriously.” And if the person is still talking about their ex, that’s a red flag. Another one should be added: When a woman says her children come first, over everything else. However, to me, it means I am going to get stood up a lot; that when I am with someone they aren’t going to give me their undivided attention when we aren’t with her kids; and that a woman isn’t really interested in a relationship and is hiding behind her kids.
What he/she’s looking for: Requiring too much or too little are both red flags. If the person really doesn’t care, they’re probably looking for a “date,” not a relationship, or he or she may be looking to scam you. When I’ve dated women with children, you can’t believe some of the things parents have called me. I used to date a loser who “worshiped” his supposed ex. Thank God I dumped the POS and now I’m dating a decent guy!Find a woman who is sterile, done with her childbearing, or doesn’t want kids.Don’t put mothers down because you are that much of a narcissist. Take it easy here, you need to grow up and quit with the immature insults.You’re definitely projecting…which kinda proves MIKW’s point… Matter of fact, the only time it wouldn’t be a red flag is if it was said by some misguided man who thought women would be super duper impressed because it showed ‘just how much’ he loves his kids…This, again, is something we hope would be the case, lol.Of course it goes without saying that kids come first. Actually, a man trying to impress women with something that should come naturally is a whole ‘nother kinda red flag… If you expect someone to give you all the benefits of a relationship but expect them to tolerate being down on your list of priorities, you have no business dating, full stop.And I have never heard anyone give themselves such pious, sanctimonious airs about motherhood who is anywhere near the precious, loving little saint of a mommy they’re so desperately trying to convince people they are.