Until then, it’s all speculation, hope, fantasy, desire, wishful thinking, and potential. What I’m writing about is what you make all of this dating stuff MEAN. remember the phone session we had last month where we were looking at one of the guys who had written to me on Match.
See, you’re identifying each man as the problem here. After all, if 50% of all guys are going to disappoint, then this behavior is utterly predictable. But then after exchanging several emails and a few phone conversations, he told me he was dating someone else and that he would call if things didn’t work out, and I was a bit upset by that. She doesn’t assume that they’re “together” because they kissed.
If you’ve been reading my newsletters long enough, you know that while such events are all encouraging, none of them qualify as “real”.
Real only happens when it’s clear that a man is your committed boyfriend.
What this means is you'll need to work the dating system so you can find him and he can find you.
Make sure you're on dating sites that are the right fit for you and while you're at it, turn your friends into who can fix you up. You didn't feel the pressure to find "the one" on your first interaction together.
Being around male energy -- even when he's just a friend -- is a lot better than sitting at home alone every Saturday night. This is about the time they came to me frustrated and looking for help.
What I shared with them is the same thing I'll share with you now.
They had created a picture of who a man was based on the words he wrote and the picture he posted online.
Having expectations before you meet sets you up for failure, especially when a guys turns out to be totally different than the way he portrayed himself online.
Wouldn't it be perfect if finding a good guy really happened this way?
Well, it can but first you must put yourself in situations where he can find you.
In fact, the majority of relationships happened as a result of hanging out with the opposite sex in class, at lunch or at youth events you were both involved with.