Growing up in a post 9/11 world and encountering the nuances of white privilege and classism, I always knew I didn’t want to date a white guy.
wonder how u ppl feel xxx well im married to a pakistani man... Would be interesting to read your experiences xx well my experience is all abt living with inlaws... ) it is not any different from what my friends who are married to Western men complain about. Anyways I'm married to hubby Pakistani inside out, Sindhi!
) it is just soo relaxed out there, always sunny, you can live the life of a millionair eventhough we are just ur average joe (and jolene) beautiful country! never cooked/cleaned/washed not that im proud of it but who doesnt like comfort? I must say that although culturally we are different, I am fortunate on the family that I married into and also the husband I have. We both have learned what are our differences and made the most of the simmiliarities and although sometimes we disagree and we can get on each other's nerves (and have had very tough times! Hello people/Salam , I was born in Hong Kong brought up in London, background is Pakistani Kashmiri (afghan Greek migrated).
And if nothing happened, you best believe he’ll lie so that something sure as hell “happened”. Amal Mohammadi, ladies, he’s single and won’t rat you out to your parents when you break up! But the typical Afghan, and I would go as far as saying Middle Eastern, Muslim man does not go for an ambitious or social woman.
Their power is threatened, and their idea of a “good Afghan woman” is challenged.
Because when I gave a presentation at the Afghan American Conference at UC Berkeley this year, the part of my speech that got a round of applause (albeit, a surprise to me), was when I stated: “We are spreading a false narrative to our men that a perfectly modest Afghan woman will be waiting for them as soon as they’re done messing around.” The question is, why are Afghan guys expecting a modest Afghan girl when they aren’t modest themselves?
This unequal treatment of the genders stems from how our families raise us. All the boy cousins openly date and bring their non-Afghan girlfriends to every family function.
And she better never lie to me, but she can lie to her parents to see me.
And in doing so, we women compromise ourselves and our reputations at an extremely disproportionate rate than our brothers.
My struggles are alien; they don’t know what it’s like to get questioned by TSA, every time, or to realize your professor is an asshole to you cuz his kid’s serving in Afghanistan.
Today, reading Tanzila Ahmed’s “Why I Don’t Date White Men”, that idea that I can’t date white men was reinforced, and I wholly related to and agreed with the post.
But I am still not convinced that our men are any better. Being from the first generation, and having a huge Afghan family and network, I feel like I have a pretty good idea of the current state of Afghan-American relationships.